You're sipping a cappuccino on the first day. conversation is going well and you enjoy. Then, it was nerve-wracking moment arrives when the check arrives. What is a woman to do?
Keep it in your wallet - your wallet, which is
.the question of who should pay the most frequently discussed topic for women. While this May seem old-fashioned advice, for the first few dates, to allow people to pay.
- Dating is really about "collecting data". Usually, you know something about a man when you first start dating him. Therefore, the observation method is so critical. Since you can not know his views on money, or how he will react, why risk taking the wrong action? Relax and watch what happens without prompting or payment.
- During the first few dates, a man will try to impress and please you in an effort to win you over. That means paying for you. If it does, it can be a red flag that he is generous with his wallet or his heart.
- most men actually expect to pay, because it is part of love and tradition of "wooing". While we have come a long way on equality in the workplace and in marriage, where men share housework, child-rearing, and brings home the bacon, dating remains archaic ritual of mating, which is simply not caught.
How can you tell if a person is interested and generous?
You will not know if you offer to pay, but you will short circuit your ability to observe their natural tendencies. Instead of jumping in to take charge or to avoid feeling obliged to sit back when the check comes and let it stand. One thing is for sure, if your date wants to split the law, he shall notify, either orally or say leaving checked to sit there for a long time who is also a clear message.
The men were caught in a difficult social dilemma when a woman offers to pay. He was to determine whether you will be offended by his refusal to take your money. While some men shake confidently offer, others do not want to risk insulting you. Many people have encountered angry women who insist on paying and not "under the control of man ."
Some people think that women's pay offer is a sign that she is not interested. You can use this trick from time to time, but do not confuse a man you really want to check offering in Split!
You are setting a precedent for thethe way you want to be treated . If you are not planning on tearing down the center of each law, not to set the pattern from the first day. Of course you will reciprocate at some point and maybe offer to pay for the movie, if you had at dinner or after dinner drink on the second or third day. But hold off, especially on the first day to see what it will do.
When a man pays not owe him anything except, "Thank You". Some women feel that it is only polite to offer to pay. Others feel compelled to pay so that they do not owe any man in exchange for dinner. This is nonsense. You do not owe anything when a man buys a coffee or dinner, but thanks to a gracious and warm smile. If he has other expectations, it is probably not the right man for you.
There are a lot of takers out there who are happy to pay the women. Women often pay bravely rush to establish their equality and independence, but in the end are complaining that their man can never contribute to or look down right cheap. Well, who gave him the idea that you want to be prepared to pay? Right up front you picked up the check, so it makes sense to conclude plan on taking care of things from that point forward.
There will be plenty of time to show your generosity. A man will only "fight"and in the beginning, because that's when the chase on. Why not let him impress you and treat you well? If he likes, let him win your heart and give him a chance to do it. Sit back, enjoy your date, and stop worrying about your share of the costs. Let your date know how much you appreciated a drink or a meal, his conversation or company to find that praise can impress a man far more than your wallet.
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